The harness is VERY comfortable, but it doesn't fit the petite too well. This is made for more average to medium size women. The velcro stays secure through the roughest poundings. My girl is very petite and doesn't like the fact that the ***** doesn't move in a fluent motion. She likes it to stay secure. It kind of stays inside of me a little too long while she is on her way out. I don't imagine she would have this problem if her waist wasn't so small. The dong is PERFECT! It's long, yes, and seems intimidating, but the head is very small and gets thicker on the way down. This gives plenty of room to warm up. After a few times, I was already taking it from her, balls deep and hard with no pain! It's a very smooth dong, and great for beginners. We have had ours for 3 years, and it still works perfect. We are shopping for a harness that is much more secure to her body though. She wants it to be so snug so that it feels like its actually her ****. She cant feel that with this. Other than that, great toy!